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Looking at the comment threads I don&#8217;t see any hostility. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Until <strong>one thing<\/strong> happens. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A non-adopted person comments something along the lines of, &#8216;You are out of line. You are being disrespectful. You are just angry. You have no right to tell me this.&#8217; (Yes, I paraphrased and combined them all together)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The adoptee sharing will defend themselves and are then met with more invalidation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Offering a different perspective isn&#8217;t disrespect. Sharing an authentic experience that makes someone uncomfortable isn&#8217;t disrespect. Disrespect is arguing that an adoptee being vulnerable is childish, an outburst, a tantrum, and purposely argumentative.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many say they are open to adoptee perspectives. Many say they want to hear about our experiences. Only a few <em>truly mean it<\/em>. Many begin with the gaslighting and invalidation as soon as they think our experience threatens their narrative. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>No one<\/strong> should have to add the NOT ALL disclaimer to everything they say. Someone open to learning would already know that NOT ALL is understood. And yet, many become confused when adoptees and advocates get angry at the wall of &#8220;NOT ALL&#8221; comments on their post. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Truly listening to a perspective in an effort to learn<\/strong> means sitting through discomfort, contemplating the message, engaging in thoughtful conversation, and seeking out more resources. It does not involve nitpicking at language, tone-policing, or reminding adoptees that we can always just go to other groups if we want our voices to be valued. 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