{"id":3037,"date":"2020-10-27T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2020-10-27T17:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lfsmusings.com\/?p=3037"},"modified":"2021-01-20T15:54:05","modified_gmt":"2021-01-20T21:54:05","slug":"my-adoption-story-pt-87-self-care-isnt-selfish","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lillyfei.com\/index.php\/2020\/10\/27\/my-adoption-story-pt-87-self-care-isnt-selfish\/","title":{"rendered":"MY ADOPTION STORY PT. 87 | SELF CARE ISN&#8217;T SELFISH"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/GolhPXzSs2c\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n\n\n\n<p>We&#8217;ve all heard the saying, but what does it mean? To me, &#8220;self care&#8221; is just necessary resting and recharging. I almost dislike that there is a specific term for it because it should just be something every does. 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