{"id":4737,"date":"2020-11-03T12:00:28","date_gmt":"2020-11-03T18:00:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lfsmusings.com\/?p=4737"},"modified":"2021-01-20T15:53:44","modified_gmt":"2021-01-20T21:53:44","slug":"my-adoption-story-pt-88-being-better-allies","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lillyfei.com\/index.php\/2020\/11\/03\/my-adoption-story-pt-88-being-better-allies\/","title":{"rendered":"MY ADOPTION STORY PT. 88 | BEING BETTER ALLIES"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/RIMGF0SQFbQ\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n\n\n\n<p>We can all do better when it comes to being allies. There is always more to learn, but we must figure out what we don&#8217;t know. 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