Children See Color
There is a video going around showing that kids are not color blind (embedded below). They see race. Transracial adoptees have been aware…
Category: Advocacy
My Social Media Boundaries
If you’ve been following my advocacy and not just my book reviews, then you know I share a lot of myself when talking…
Cafes and Culture
Happy Saturday, everyone! I am one lucky woman and have zero plans for the day. My only plans are to spend the day…
How I Balance Life
Often, people ask me how I do it all—a PhD, advocacy, reading, writing, Chinese lessons, exercise, socializing, taking care of my pets. When…
What’s Invalidation?
Trigger Warning: Racist language used against Asians (used in a quote said to me) Invalidation comes in all forms. I experience it most…
Welcome to 2020
It’s December 30th, 2019 which means it’s time for a post full of self-reflection and cliches. I’ll start by acknowledging that I think…
Don’t Let Anyone Pick Your Battles For You
This applies to every day of the year, but since the holidays are approaching it seems like a perfect time to write about…
Dodged one bullet, got hit by another
I write a lot about this breakup and abandonment because I see it relate so directly to how I feel about adoption. The…
Becoming AdopteeLilly
When an adoptee has the floor, do not derail the conversation to prove how woke you are. My name is Lillian飞岗 Schmaltz, and…
Adopted kids grow up to be (outspoken) adult adoptees.
I’m not here to provide loopholes. I’m not spending my time answering questions that are so obviously used to gain permission to continue…