One Child Nation: One Chinese Adoptee’s Thoughts
** Disclaimer (that shouldn’t be necessary, but somehow is): These are my initial thoughts as I process the documentary. They are in no…
Category: Advocacy
Why I Focus on Adoptive Parents
Why are all of my posts directed at adoptive parents? My main goal is to support and advocate for the younger generation of…
When I Look in the Mirror
When I look in the mirror, what do I see? The eyes that were the subject of so many taunts and jokes. No…
Gaslighting at its finest
Something really gross happened this morning. In a comment, someone resorted to gaslighting and claimed my advocacy is the reason why no one…
My identity is not a mask I can take off when things get tough.
Trigger Warning: Offensive language against Chinese people (used to describe a racist situation) People tell me to stop talking about race when I’m…
Are your terms of endearment actually racist?
They called me “Gorilla”. They asked me if Donkey Kong was my father. They asked me if my forehead was so big because…
I love you so much I gave you up.
An essay on secondary abandonment and valuing oneself. There they were. Those words that had dictated my entire life. I was so loved,…
The Angry Adoptee You Created.
So you think I am just an angry adoptee. You’re frustrated that I talk about some hard stuff. You don’t understand why I…
Are you threatened by me?
I’m tired. I’m exhausted. I’ve considered giving up many times. It doesn’t matter how much I tone police myself. It doesn’t matter how…
I don’t experience it. That’s what matters.
Something that has always irked me is when adoptees speak out about racism and microaggressions (or really any not-rainbows-and-unicorns experience) and it is…