Thoughts for my 26th Birthday
Happy 26th Birthday to Me! I wasn’t quite sure how this year would go. I spent my 25th birthday reflecting on how different…
Tag: chinese adoption
Extra Invalidation This Week | 09.27.2020 | Sunday Check-In
I am barely hanging on between work and current events. As a result, I’ve tried to take a step back from advocacy (at…
MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 77 | I DIDN’T HAVE THE LANGUAGE | NOT AN ADOPTEE’S RESPONSIBILITY
One of the most common forms of invalidation I see is, ‘My child hasn’t expressed these feelings so yours aren’t valid’. The problem…
MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 76 | FEELING IN-BETWEEN
As a transracial adoptee, I had always felt in-between. Being torn between two families, cultures, races, and identities. It wasn’t until recently that…
Little Gifts to Learn Chinese
Learning Chinese was something I attempted to do as a child. I didn’t appreciate Saturday school. Even though my parents said I would…
MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 75 | YOU ASKED, I ANSWERED! | Q & A
You all submitted questions, and I am finally answering them! My videos are filmed and scheduled to publish weeks in advance. While I…
MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 73 | I have a Chinese, TRA sister
People always ask me about how it was having a Chinese, transracial adoptee as a sister. Parents wonder if they should adopt another…
Becoming AdopteeLilly
When an adoptee has the floor, do not derail the conversation to prove how woke you are. My name is Lillian飞岗 Schmaltz, and…
Are your terms of endearment actually racist?
They called me “Gorilla”. They asked me if Donkey Kong was my father. They asked me if my forehead was so big because…
Are you threatened by me?
I’m tired. I’m exhausted. I’ve considered giving up many times. It doesn’t matter how much I tone police myself. It doesn’t matter how…