My identity is not a mask I can take off when things get tough.
Trigger Warning: Offensive language against Chinese people (used to describe a racist situation) People tell me to stop talking about race when I’m…
Tag: transracial adoption
Are your terms of endearment actually racist?
They called me “Gorilla”. They asked me if Donkey Kong was my father. They asked me if my forehead was so big because…
I love you so much I gave you up.
An essay on secondary abandonment and valuing oneself. There they were. Those words that had dictated my entire life. I was so loved,…
The Angry Adoptee You Created.
So you think I am just an angry adoptee. You’re frustrated that I talk about some hard stuff. You don’t understand why I…
Are you threatened by me?
I’m tired. I’m exhausted. I’ve considered giving up many times. It doesn’t matter how much I tone police myself. It doesn’t matter how…
I don’t experience it. That’s what matters.
Something that has always irked me is when adoptees speak out about racism and microaggressions (or really any not-rainbows-and-unicorns experience) and it is…
Little Fires Everywhere
Soon to be a TV miniseries by Reese Witherspoon, this story was gripping. I especially related to it as a Chinese, transracial adoptee.…
Who do I look like?
What is it like to look in the mirror when you don’t know anyone you are biologically related to? Do most people look…
It’s Not About Being Beautiful. It’s About Being Comfortable.
I stared into the mirror with frustration growing inside of me. I had been trying to apply liquid, winged eyeliner for the last…