What’s Invalidation?
Trigger Warning: Racist language used against Asians (used in a quote said to me) Invalidation comes in all forms. I experience it most…
Tag: Mental Health
Welcome to 2020
It’s December 30th, 2019 which means it’s time for a post full of self-reflection and cliches. I’ll start by acknowledging that I think…
Don’t Let Anyone Pick Your Battles For You
This applies to every day of the year, but since the holidays are approaching it seems like a perfect time to write about…
Dodged one bullet, got hit by another
I write a lot about this breakup and abandonment because I see it relate so directly to how I feel about adoption. The…
Becoming AdopteeLilly
When an adoptee has the floor, do not derail the conversation to prove how woke you are. My name is Lillian飞岗 Schmaltz, and…
Adopted kids grow up to be (outspoken) adult adoptees.
I’m not here to provide loopholes. I’m not spending my time answering questions that are so obviously used to gain permission to continue…
Gaslighting at its finest
Something really gross happened this morning. In a comment, someone resorted to gaslighting and claimed my advocacy is the reason why no one…
I love you so much I gave you up.
An essay on secondary abandonment and valuing oneself. There they were. Those words that had dictated my entire life. I was so loved,…
Thoughts as I approach 25…
It’s been quite a while since I’ve posted anything other than a book review. As my 25th birthday approaches and I reflect on…
Finally a Restful Weekend
As you know, I went on vacation last weekend. Except it was definitely the type of vacation where you are more tired after…